God's Grace

There are several definitions of what Grace is according to Merriam-Webster dictionary. It marks on the religious point of what grace is calling Grace "a virtue coming from God". Which, we all probably know that Grace comes from God, but that is not the definition of Grace I want to look at.  Merriam-Webster also defines Grace as Approval, Favor, Mercy, and Pardon. Those four defining points of Grace is what truly makes it up. I want to go through each point.
ApprovalRomans 4:4-6 When people work, their pay is not regarded as a gift but something they have earned. 5 However, when people don’t work but believe God, the one who approves ungodly people, their faith is regarded as the basis of God’s approval. David says the same thing about those who are blessed: God approves of people without their earning it
We do not have to work for the gifts God gives us. As humans, we are constantly trying to earn people's approval. It is definitely natural to want approval, but the reali…

I said No.

You're allowed to stand up for yourself I'm starting off by saying that because I want you to know that you do not have to compromise anything about yourself to be loved. You are allowed to stand up for yourself-ALWAYS. Your morals,   safety, and relationship with God come first. I hope this personal experience I am about to share with you, helps you out. 
So recently, a guy friend of mine reconnected with me on Instagram.  We met when I was 15 or so and he was 18. We are going to call him John for the sake of his privacy and identity.  We were both volunteering at a local youth ministry. Back then, we weren't great friends, just acquaintances. I thought he was funny and a good guy though. 
As I said, we reconnected on Instagram of all things. He followed me and then messaged me. Honestly, it was all very casual. When he asked me to get coffee with him at Wafflehouse, I said yes. It went really well. We caught up with each other's lives, and I mostly talked. What can …

Overcoming Insecurities

What is insecurity? Google dictionary defines insecurity as "uncertainty or anxiety about oneself: lack of confidence". This is definitely a topic that is universal to all people. Insecurity does not discriminate. I face it. Why do we face insecurity? So why do we face insecurity? Honestly, insecurity comes from separation from God and finding our identities in ungodly things.  I truly believe that. As humans, without Christ especially, we allow our identity to be shaped by our mistakes and experiences. Which those things definitely do mold us, they do not define us. Listen y'all, I would absolutely hate if other people identified me by my mistakes and past so why should I do so to myself?
Instead of telling you that you should find your identity in Christ, I am going to give you evidence and reminders of who you are in Christ. Step by step, walking in trust, love, and forgiveness, we can overcome.Lift up your eyes and look to the Heavens: Who created all these? He who …

Finding Rest and Peace

How do you find peace and rest? "How do I find rest and peace?" asked every human ever. We all go through rough patches in life and we all just want these two things. As Christians, we have access to peace and rest in Christ.  Philippians 4:7 says "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."  You may ask yourself " How do I access this?" Well, you see, you have access to all God gives the minute you except Jesus Christ as your savior. God only wants good things for you and peace and rest falls under the category of good things. Who doesn't like good things? I think a big step to walking with God is letting go of understanding. I know it is not easy. Frankly, I like control, and I like to understand things. This is a step I always have to be conscious of. I don't want complete control over my life when there is a way so much better for me. That is where trusting God falls into place.…

4 tips to date intentionally

Dating with Intention as a Christian Woman Look, let me be straight up, this has not been an easy thing for me to do. I think my intention was to date with intention, but I never got it right! When it comes to dating with intention, you have to have boundaries set for yourself and then you have to stick to them! That's the part I got wrong. Sure, I had great boundaries, ideas, and even goals, but I could not stick to them. I knew I was wanting to intentionally date to look for a life partner, but I was dating like somebody who just wanted to have fun. I've learned a few things on the way, and I have become better for it! Here are some tips (and the do nots that I did!) to help you out.
1. Acknowledgment  Before anything else, you have to acknowledgment you are ready to intentionally date. I mean sit down and get real with yourself. Taking this step means you are beginning an aim for your future spouse. Beginning this means no more games and just dating for fun. It is a seriou…

What is your Why?

WhyWhy is a universal question that can be asked for thousands of questions. A child tends to ask why over and over and over again while everytime they ask it, it makes sense.
The why I was recently asked was why do I want to work in a ministry that is pointed towards girls. So I asked myself why. Why do you want to work with girls, Cesaley? The answer was easy to answer for myself. I've always known my why. Putting it into words for the person who asked is a little different.
I was afraid that my answer was not good enough. I feared that my answer was not the right one. I was afraid that my answer would affect how this person viewed me. These are silly fears, but to me, they seemed rational. I am only putting my silly fears into this to let Y'all know that I am human. I have fears too. These fears made me think why even deeper. 
Growing up through my teen years was hard. I struggled with not having a best friend. I struggled with wanting acceptance. I struggled with finding …

You Are Not Your Sins

I know how it feels. You look in the mirror, and you question how you have gotten to this place. You know longer see yourself as redeemed but dirty and sinful. Your identity has become sinner once again. Sweet girl, let me tell you how wrong you are. From the wise words of a great friend "You're just as righteous in Christ as I am."  You see, you already have laid down your old identity and claimed a new one in Christ.
Romans 6:6/18  We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. - and having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.
Nothing you do can change that fact. You are righteous. Christ already saved you. He does not have to do it again. Look, I have been in your spot, and I know it is not easy. I've sinned and allowed my shame to drown me. I tried to find my identity in everything but Christ. However, I already surrendered to God. …